My Adoption Story

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driftingmountainflower asked: How many Chinese girls that have survived the one child policy have you heard from/know? Here's another one to add to that number.

Hooray!
I love this ask. I personally know of 5 (now 6) girls whose adoption was a direct result of the one child policy. (That is not to say that all Chinese adoptions are though)

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Anonymous asked: I was adopted by a severely emotionally verbally abusive dysfunctional family, and was so brainwashed that until I was 19 I believed they were okay people because they didn't deprive me of food and hadn't hit me in years. My genetic mother thinks they're wonderful people. I'm in college now, without the necessary skillssets to get away from them, or to build a support system of friends for myself. For some reason I still see them on a regular basis. I can't break free and they want it that way.

Let me start this by telling you how sorry I am that you are going through this. Leaving abuse is a very difficult process. It does not matter who is abusing you, they are wrong to do so. It makes it that much worse when we are lead to believe that the persons abusing us are our protectors.

Please know that we are here to support you in what ways we can. Telling your story is so important. It is so important for the world to know adoption is made up of people. People can be wonderful, and people can be horrid. Adoption is not a magical cure to anything.

I am so sad to hear that your genetic mother is not hearing your distress.

Please know there is hope, that there is an end to the cycle. Know that we at myadoptionstory care and are here. Know that you are worthy of being loved and worthy of being free.

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Anonymous asked: I always felt as though i was never good enough. My mom didnt want me (literally, she kept 6 other kids only giving me up), i was bullied all through elementary and middle school. Im so shy that if a stranger says hello to me I have a panic attack.

Oh sweetie, I am so so sorry.

I wish I had words that would make everything perfect for you.

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Anonymous asked: Are there any tumblrs/websites/forums you can recommend for adoptees who were abused by their adoptive families?

http://www.adoption.com/articles/more-resources-for-adult-adoptees.html  This has some resources, but it is a bit difficult to navigate.

This one looked dated… but really it might really good. http://www.adoptionhealing.com/

Most of the tumblrs that focus on adoption that I have seen focus on the parents and their journey. I know of none that focus on adoptee abuse.

THis article is good. http://www.ehow.com/info_7874418_adoptee-support-groups.html

And remember, I am always here.

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901469 asked: I'm a 22 year old adoptee who has just requested a copy of all non-identifying information about my biological family, from my adoption agency. It won't be here for about 10-12 weeks, though. I already have the non-identifying info that was given to my parents. What info can I expect to learn?

Based on what I understand (and as I am not a lawyer or anything like that…) it is likely that it will be the same things as the info given your parents. Non-identifying information is just basic background info and they probably disclosed most of that to your parents.

Does anyone out there have experience with that?